The Ultimate Open Relationships Manual by Blackdragon

Author:Blackdragon,
Language: eng
Format: azw3, epub, mobi
Publisher: DCS International LLC
Published: 2017-12-14T18:30:00+00:00

Chapter 13

ONEITIS MANAGEMENT

Oneitis is the number one killer of men in the modern era. I don’t mean that it will literally end your life, but I mean that of all the threats to your happiness as a man, oneitis is the greatest. If you lose money, you can always get it back. If you gain weight, you can always lose it. If you get fired, you can always get another job. Yet the damage caused by oneitis is often extreme and long-lasting.

You and I have seen countless men over the years who were intelligent, tough, happy, and successful brought down by getting oneitis for one woman. Oneitis creates depression, anger, arguments, break-ups, divorces, custody battles, and sometimes even physical violence. Oneitis destroys careers, fame, wealth, businesses, friendships, and family relationships. Oneitis ruins men’s reputations. In extreme cases, oneitis puts men in jail and even gets them killed.

Moreover, I estimate that about 70% of relationship problems people experience within the first year are directly caused by oneitis on the part of the man. (After three years this shifts, and most relationship problems at that time tend to be caused by the woman, but that’s a topic for another time.)

If your objective as a man is to live a happy life, then you must learn how to avoid oneitis.

I’m not saying you can’t ever fall in love. You can. I’ve been in love with someone before, and as I type these words, I’m in love with one special woman. But I don’t have oneitis for her.

I’m not saying you can’t ever experience NRE. I experience NRE with women all the time and it’s great! But I never get oneitis.

I’m not saying you can’t ever settle down with someone special and raise kids, if that’s what you want. But you can do that without getting oneitis.

Being a hermit who never has sex with women or never gets into relationships with them is not the answer. Instead, your job is to experience all the positive and wonderful emotions women can bring to us without getting oneitis. This means you can be with a woman, adore a woman, even deeply love a woman, but without her having the power over you to threaten or demand things that you’ll cower to. It means you can truly love her, but are still 100% willing to leave her if she starts becoming problematic in your life.

This is a perfectly achievable goal. I’ve done it, as have thousands of other men all over the world. When you achieve this goal, you will know a level of happiness and power that you never thought possible. This chapter is about how to get there, and stay there.

Oneitis management involves both your internal, mental world and your external world. For your mental world, there are five mindsets you need start operating under.

The Five Mindsets To Adopt and Always Remember

1. She’s not the one, she’s one of many.

2. It’s probably just NRE, which is temporary.

3. She won’t be around forever.

4. Your feelings come from you, not her.

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